About Codependendency and Recovery from Addictions:
Addictions and Codependency are family and relationship issues as well as a primary illness for the addict. Modern treatment methods address the entire family and relationship structure.
Ironically, codependency isn’t about other people – it’s about the relationship with the self. Codependents often believe that if the addict in their life sobered up their problems would go away.
Countless addict / alcoholics find their relationships end or change radically when they get clean and sober. The family / relationship dynamic was predicated on the addict being “the sick one.” As the addict gets well they may find their partners and family members have no idea how to adjust to the changes.
Enabling codependents may subvert the addict’s recovery so the unhealthy relationship dynamics can be preserved.
Addicted codependents who hid behind another’s more dramatic problem may leave the relationship rather than give up their own using. Addicted codependents often progress in their own addictions more rapidly when their partner enters recovery. (Since the change in the relationship is stressful.)
Codependents in denial cannot adjust to the relationship changes that occur when their partner begins recovery. They may move on to other addictive relationships so they can cling to their own dysfunctional patterns. (The controlling codependent is often lost without someone to blame, fix and control.) How many times have you heard of people who leave one alcoholic only to enter a relationship with another one?
All people involved in the addictive cycle need a solid recovery program if relationships are to be preserved and they are to lead happy, fulfilling lives.